When you are at peace with the truth of "what's so", you have peace of mind. You see your situation clearly and can see what needs to be done. You are creative, resourceful and very effective.

When you fight the truth of “what’s so”, you become full of fear and upset. You get tunnel vision and lose your ability to see clearly. All you can do is resist. This in turn makes your situation worse.

The Law of Resistance

One of the most powerful ways that we create in our lives is by resisting. When you resist, you magnify whatever you are resisting. Here are some examples that demonstrate this:

Imagine four yellow balloons on the ceiling above you. Now, whatever you do, don't think of them. You just thought about them. Don't do that.

What happens when you fight the yellow balloons? You keep thinking about them. In fact, you can hardly think of anything else. Resisting the thought of yellow balloons gives the thought power and keeps it alive.

The same principle applies in every aspect of life. Whatever you resist gets magnified.

Have you ever had a relationship with someone who had a characteristic that you couldn’t stand? What happened to that characteristic when you resisted it? It grew. It grew in your perception and it actually showed up more around you.

Let's say that you are married and that you are resisting losing your spouse. The more you resist losing your spouse, the more you hang on and the more you push your spouse away.

Look at how you feel when someone tries to change you. How do you feel about changing? You don't want to. You get upset and become resistant. You don't want to change a thing.

The same thing happens when you resist someone else or some other aspect of your life. The very act of resisting makes whatever you resist more solid.

Look at any area of your life that isn't working. Notice that there is something that you are resisting. This aspect of your life is the way that it is and you are fighting it. Fighting and resisting this area of life doesn't make it go away, It gives this area of life more power.

When you resist the truth of the way things are, you create a state of upset. You destroy your ability to see clearly and you make your situation worse.

The moment you let go of the resisting, fear and upset disappear. You restore your ability to see clearly and can see what needs to be done. Solutions appear and this area of life begins to clear up.

Have you ever had a time when you resisting something and you reached a point where you decided to let it go? What happened the moment you let go? You got your peace of mind back.

You also saw your situation in a very different way. Your situation looked different because the tunnel vision was gone. Now notice what happened to that area of life when you let go of the resisting. It started clearing up. Life always takes care of itself when we surrender to the truth.

Here is another example:

Marci was unreliable and her husband Michael hated it. He needed to rely on her because they worked together. When she didn't do her part, he got upset. He did everything he could to change her, but nothing worked. Marci continued to be unreliable, and the more he resisted her unreliability, the more unreliable she became.

Finally, after years of relying on her and suffering the consequences, Michael had a realization that changed his life. He realized that Marci wasn't reliable. He hated it, but he finally saw that this was true.

This would have been obvious to anyone else, but Michael couldn't see it. He couldn't see the truth because he didn't want this to be the truth. He wanted Marci to be reliable.

Once he stopped resisting and let in the truth, he saw his situation clearly. He didn't like what he saw, but he could see what he needed to do. For starters, he needed to stop relying on Marci.

The moment he stopped resisting and surrendered to the truth, he could see what he needed to do and this area of his life cleared up.

Fighting and resisting the truth doesn’t change the truth. It just makes your situation more difficult. It’s the resisting that gets us in trouble, and what we resist is the truth. “What’s so” is always “what’s so.”

So why do we resist? Why can't we flow with life? Why can't we be at peace with the truth? We resist to avoid the same nerve that creates our upsets.

Ultimately, this nerve is an old, childhood hurt of feeling worthless, not good enough, not worth loving, a failure, or some other form of feeling "not okay." Finding and healing this hurt, or core issue, is one of the most important things you can ever do.

To learn how, make sure you read the sections, Be Willing To Feel Your Hurt, and Heal Your Inner Core Issues.

If you would like to heal your hurt and restore your peace of mind quickly, schedule a telephone consulting session with Bill Ferguson or attend his workshops.

The Mastery Of Life Audio Course and Bill's new book, Get Your Power Back, also show how to find and heal this hurt.

The next section is on how to let go.

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