These conditions keep showing up because we keep creating them. Without knowing, we actually create our own suffering. This may sound like a harsh thing to say, but as you read the various sections on this site, you will discover that this is true.

Every one of us has an internal mechanism that forces us to act in a way that actually destroys love and sabotages our life. Once you discover this mechanism and learn how it works, you can remove it. The problem areas of your life can then clear up.

When you were born, you were pure love, but you were born into a world that suppresses this state. You then got hurt. You experienced rejection, invalidation and painful losses of love.

As a little child, the only way you could explain these painful losses of love was to blame yourself. "Clearly I'm the problem." In a moment of hurt, you decided that you were worthless, not good enough, not worth loving, a failure, or some other form of feeling "not okay."

It wasn't the truth that you were this way, but in the eyes of a little child, it became your truth. You then took this a step further and fought the very notion that you created. "Worthless is a horrible way to be."

You fought the belief that you created and you fought all the hurt that came with it. From that moment on, the primary, subconscious focus of your life would be to avoid this hurt. It's the automatic, subconscious avoidance of this hurt that sabotages your life.

Anything that triggers this hurt is perceived as a threat. When this hurt gets triggered, you become full of fear and upset. You close down and lose your ability to see clearly. You also get tunnel vision. You get tunnel vision because all your focus is on how to get rid of the perceived threat.

When you are in this state of tunnel vision, you lose your ability to see what works. All you can do is fight, resist, hang on or withdraw. This in turn destroys love and creates opposition and resistance against yourself. Almost anything you do in this state makes your situation worse. We'll talk more about this later.

As you read the articles on this site, you will discover that when you have a relationship or any other area of your life that isn't working, there will always be an underlying tunnel vision that is creating the problem.

The problem may seem to be caused by your circumstances, but this is an illusion. The circumstances are not the problem. They are the symptom of something much deeper. The real problem is the underlying tunnel vision that keeps you from seeing what needs to be done and forces you to act in a way that makes your situation worse.

As long as you focus on the symptoms without addressing this underlying cause, nothing will change and the suffering will continue.

Notice how ineffective you have been in handling the areas of life where you suffer. Notice that no matter what you do, these areas of life still don't work. This is because you are focusing on the symptoms instead of the cause.

To have your life clear up, take the focus off of the circumstances and look for the underlying condition that destroys your effectiveness and keeps you from resolving the problem.

The process for healing the hurt and removing the tunnel vision is relatively simple and very non-confronting.

This is because the hurt that fuels the tunnel vision isn't based on what happened in your life. It's based on certain beliefs that you made up as a result of what happened. Once this illusion is exposed, the hurt loses power and you set yourself free.

Once you find and heal this hurt, the areas of your life that don't work automatically begin to clear up. The tunnel vision disappears and so does the fear and upset. Instantly, you restore your ability to see clearly. You become creative, resourceful and able to discover solutions you could never have seen before.

The best way to find and heal this hurt is for Bill Ferguson to walk you through the healing process. See Individual Support. The second best way is for you to attend his weekend workshop, Return To The Heart or do the Mastery Of Life Audio Course. You can also read his book, Get Your Power Back.

It is possible to create a life that will exceed your dreams. The steps for creating a life that works are very simple, but you have to take them. Use this site to learn what they are.

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