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How We Sabotage Our Lives.
Do the same self-sabotaging behavior patterns and the same type of upsets keep showing up in your life? These conditions keep showing up because we keep creating them. Without knowing, we actually create our own suffering. This may sound like a odd thing to say, but as you read the various sections on this site, you will discover that this is true. Every one of us has an internal mechanism that forces us to act in a way that destroys love and sabotages our life. Once you discover this mechanism and learn how it works, you can remove it. The problem areas of your life can then clear up. Here is how it works: When you were born, you were pure love, but you were born into a world that suppresses this state. You then got hurt. You experienced rejection, invalidation and painful losses of love. As a little child, the only way you could explain these painful losses of love was to blame yourself. "Clearly I'm the problem." In a moment of hurt, you decided that you were worthless, not good enough, not worth loving, a failure, or some other form of feeling "not okay." It wasn't the truth that you were this way, but in the eyes of a little child, it became your truth. You then took this a step further and fought the very notion that you created. "Worthless is a horrible way to be." You fought the belief that you created and you fought all the hurt that came with it. From that moment on, the primary, subconscious focus of your life would be to avoid this hurt. It's the automatic, subconscious avoidance of this hurt that sabotages your life. Anything that triggers this hurt is perceived as a threat. When this hurt gets triggered, you become full of fear and upset. You close down and lose your ability to see clearly. You also get tunnel vision. You get tunnel vision because all your focus is on how to get rid of the perceived threat. It's this tunnel vision that sabotages your life. When you are in this state of tunnel vision, you lose your ability to find solutions. All you can do is fight, resist, hang on or withdraw. This in turn destroys love and creates opposition and resistance against yourself. Almost anything you do in this state makes your situation worse. We'll talk more about this later. As you read the articles on this site, you will discover that when you have a relationship or any other area of your life that isn't working, there will always be an underlying tunnel vision that is creating the problem. The problem may seem to be caused by your circumstances, but this is an illusion. The circumstances are not the problem. They are the symptom of something much deeper. The real problem is the underlying tunnel vision. The tunnel vision keeps you from finding solutions and it forces you to act in a way that makes your situation worse. As long as you focus on the symptoms without addressing this underlying cause, nothing will change and the suffering will continue. Notice how ineffective you have been in handling the areas of life where you suffer. Notice that no matter what you do, these areas of life still don't work. This is because you are focusing on the symptoms instead of the cause. Watch a video of Bill talking about how the tunnel vision sabotages sabotages your life.
To have a problem area of your life clear up, take the focus off of the circumstances and look for the underlying condition that either creates the problem or keeps you from resolving it. As you remove this underlying condion, you restore your ability to see clearly. You can find solutions. You can see what needs to be done and this area of life starts clearing up. There are two steps to removing this condition. The first step is to find the condtion and learn how it works. The section step is to remove it. You remove it by finding and healing the suppressed hurt that creates it. Fortunately, the process for healing this hurt and removing the condition is relatively simple. This is because the hurt that fuels the tunnel vision isn't based on what happened in your life. It's based on certain beliefs that you made up as a result of what happened. Once this illusion is exposed, the hurt loses power and you set yourself free. Watch a video of Bill talking about these inner core issues. Once you find and heal this hurt, the areas of your life that don't work automatically begin to clear up. The tunnel vision disappears and so does the fear and upset. Instantly, you restore your ability to see clearly. You become creative, resourceful and able to discover solutions you could never have seen before. This site will explain the basic steps for how to heal this hurt, remove the tunnel vision, and have the problem areas clear up.
If you prefer videos, download Bill's Core Issue Healing Video and the video on Why Certain Areas of Life Don't Work. It is possible to create a life that will exceed your dreams. The steps for creating a life that works are very simple, but you have to take them. Use this site to learn what they are.
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