How to be effective
in difficult times
The purpose of difficult times and how to
move through them quickly
The purpose of difficult times and how to move through them quickly
This video is from The Mastery of Life Course
How to be effective in difficult times
When we are in a difficult time, we are full of fear and upset. This makes us very ineffective. It destroys our ability to see clearly and tends to force destructive behavior. It creates negative thinking and keeps us from finding solutions. It also makes the difficult time last much longer than it needs to.
If you are in a difficult time, the top priority is to restore your inner peace. The moment you remove the fear, upset, and negativity, you become very effective. You see your situation clearly and can see what needs to be done. You also create an environment where solutions and opportunity can show up.
Let me explain. Your situation is the way it is whether you like it or not. You can’t pay the bills or your spouse wants to leave. This is the truth. If you are be at peace with this truth, you can focus on what needs to be done based on the facts.
When you fight the truth, the facts are irrelevant. Your actions are based on emotion and the focus is on resisting. This destroys your ability to see the truth and when you can't see the truth, you can't see what you need to do.
For example, handling a situation without seeing the truth is like trying to open a door when you can’t see that it's locked. You may spend a lot of energy trying to force the door open, but you won’t be very effective.
The moment you let go of the resisting and surrender to the truth, you restore your ability to see clearly. You may not like what you see, but at least you can see it. You can then put your focus on what needs to be done. Instead of resisting, you can focus on solutions. Instead of trying to force open a locked door, you can put your focus on finding a key.
Effective action can handle a situation, but not the inner state of resisting. To be most effective, let go of the resisting and surrender to the truth of the way your situation is. Then create a plan of action based on facts instead of emotion. After you have a plan, start taking action. Take the next step and the next one. Eventually, you will get past the difficult time and your life will be better off because of it.
The nature of difficult times
Life is full of adversity. We are constantly being brought challenges and difficult times. This is how we grow. Difficult times force us to look at the areas of our lives that we need to look at, but would never otherwise have a reason to. They put our issues in our face so we can heal them. They kick us out of our nest and they get us ready for our future. We couldn't grow if we didn't have difficult times.
I have had my share of difficult times and like you, I have survived every one of them. Not only have I survived them, but every difficult time has been followed by something great. I had a healing, an awareness, or a change that made my life much better.
I have a great life today and I can honestly say that this wouldn’t have happened if I didn't have the difficult times of my past. I needed those times to get me where I am today. Look at your life and notice that the same is probably true for you.
We can't see the big picture
Difficult times are brought to us for our good, but in the fear and upset, we can't imagine any good ever coming from them. This is because we can't see the big picture. All we can see is our current situation. Here is a classic example that demonstrates this.
Years ago, we had to put my mother in a home because she had Alzheimer's and it was too dangerous for her to live by herself. I remember how upset she was. In fact, I don't remember her ever being so upset. Putting her in the home was hard on all of us.
Then, about three months later, she met this man down the hall and the two of them fell madly in love with each other. Everywhere they went, they held hands and called each other "My Sweetie." Their romance became so well known that the local paper came out and did a feature story on them for Valentine's Day.
Now here's the question. If my mother knew what was in store for her, would she have fought going to the home? No. She would have fought to get into the home. She just didn't see the big picture. The same is true for all of us. We can't see the good that's coming to us. This is where trust comes in.
Trust that you will be okay
When you know, deep in your heart, that you will be okay no matter what happens, you become more able to flow with whatever life brings you. Fear and upset lose power. You restore your ability to see clearly and solutions start showing up. Trust is one of the keys to being effective in difficult times.
One way to create trust is look at your past and notice that all of your difficult times have been temporary. They came, ran their course, and then passed. If you are in a difficult time now, this too will pass, and when the smoke clears, you will be fine. So trust. Trust that no matter what is going on in your life, it is ultimately for your higher good. Trust that no matter what happens, you will be okay and that you will be better off because of it.
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