Articles from August 2016

If you have two or more people together, you can expect to have disagreements. How you handle these disagreements determines the quality of your relationship. Most of us handle them in a way that is very destructive. We get defensive and draw sides against the other person.

Then we fight to have our side prevail. We think that if we fight hard enough, our side will win. Unfortunately, this isn’t the case. Everything you do to have your side win is calculated to have the other side lose. This automatically puts the other person on the defensive and forces that person to fight you.

Then you get defensive and fight the other person even harder. Then the other person does the same. Without knowing, you create a cycle of conflict that produces tremendous suffering and makes it very difficult to resolve anything.
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