Articles from November 2016

I recently had a session with a husband and wife that were deep in the process of a contested divorce. Each had their point of view about how things should be handled and each person’s point of view was valid. As they fought to have their points of view prevail, the cycle of conflict escalated dramatically.

There was so much upset and defensiveness that neither person could hear what the other was saying. Instead of looking for solutions, all the focus was on fighting and resisting. They couldn’t see that the conflict and suffering was their own creation. It was a symptom, not the problem.
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In the last week or so, I experienced the passing of some very special people. I didn’t know these individuals personally, but they were special in the lives of my family and friends. This morning, it happened again. A beautiful light in the world just lost his battle with cancer.

For some reason I was deeply moved. The loss brought up lots of sadness. It also put me back in touch with how totally irrelevant our circumstances are. Compared to life, our circumstances are absurdly meaningless. The only thing that matters is the experience of love.

When you are in the experience of love, your mind is still and you are present with who you are. You feel whole and complete. At the same time, you feel humble. Your ego loses power and something beautiful happens. You can experience the presence of God. As you let go of the ego and allow this presence to move through you, miracles can happen.
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Guilt is very destructive. It reduces your self-respect and undermines your relationship with yourself. It makes you feel undeserving and shrinks your capacity to receive. It takes away your confidence and fuels the deeper core issues that destroy love and sabotage your life.

Being free of guilt is very important. Fortunately, this is relatively easy to do. It’s easy because guilt is never, never caused by what we did. Guilt is something that we add later with the benefit of hindsight. It is only when we see the consequences of our actions that we add guilt.

Select a guilt from your life. Then go back in time to the moment you did whatever you did. At that moment, didn’t you have a very particular state of mind and didn’t you see life in a very particular way?
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