I didn’t know it at the time, but much of my life had been spent running from failure. I did everything I could to become a success. Then there was a point when I purchased a significant amount of real estate. I did this right before the market collapsed.
As a result, I lost everything. I lost my investments, my office, and even my home. This was a very difficult time for me, but it ended up being one of the most valuable. It put failure in my face like never before and this is exactly what I needed.
In reality, success and failure are just judgments. They don’t exist in the physical universe. They only exist in our mind, but in our mind they are very real. They are also two sides of the same coin. If you have “up” the ladder, you must have “down” the ladder. Up and down, success and failure, worthy and worthless, are all two sides of the same coin.
When I lost everything, I was deep on the failure side of the coin. When I looked at my life from this side of the coin, it was like looking through blue tinted sunglasses. Everything took on the color of blue. My whole life was one big failure. All I could see was failure and the evidence was overwhelming. Success was also there, but at the time, I couldn’t see it.
Then there was a moment when I surrendered to the aspect of me called failure. I didn’t like it, but I couldn’t deny it. This is part of me. The moment this happened, my fear of failure lost its power. “How can I run from failure if I am one.”
A few days later, I felt a wonderful freedom. “I am a failure. That’s great. Now I don’t have to be a success. I don’t have to be a certain way. I can just be me.” The moment I faced the dragon and allowed myself to be human, my life started working.
I then became motivated by my passion instead of my fear. I also became more able to make decisions and take action based on facts instead of emotion. I became a lot more effective. A year or so later, I closed my law practice and started doing what I loved.
I have since discovered that everyone has this hurt. For one person it’s failure. For another, it is not good enough, worthless, or not worth loving. What is your hurt?
The automatic avoidance of this hurt creates a state of fear and upset. It destroys our ability to see clearly and forces destructive behavior. Any relationship and any area of life that isn’t working can be traced directly to the automatic avoidance of this hurt. To learn more about this hurt and how to heal it, click here.
Finding and healing this childhood hurt is one of the most important things you can ever do. Fortunately, this is something you can do. I had my healing the hard way. You can do it the easy way and I can show you how.
It is possible to be happy, alive, and free most of the time. Relationships can heal, problem areas can clear up, and you can create a great life, but this won’t happen by itself. There are concepts to learn, issues to heal, and action to take. Fortunately, the process of transforming your life is relatively easy, but you have to know how. I can walk you through the steps.