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Guilt seems to be caused by what we did, but this is an illusion. Guilt is never caused by what we did. Guilt is something that we add later. We add guilt after we learn the consequences of our actions. This is good news because if guilt is something we created, it’s something we can heal.

The first step in releasing guilt is to find something you did that you feel guilty about. Then go back in time to the moment you did whatever you did. At that moment, didn’t you have a very particular state of mind and didn’t you see life in a very particular way? Weren’t your actions a direct result of this limited awareness?
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Follow these ground rules and watch what happens.

7. Handle what doesn’t work
When an aspect of your life isn’t working, you lose your aliveness and peace of mind. Unworkability exists because we tolerate it. List all the items in your life that aren’t working and handle each one as fast as you can. Clean up your environment, your relationships, your health, and your finances. Handle every aspect of your life that isn’t working.

8. Let go of resentment
Forgiveness is not for the other person, it’s for you. When you resent, a part of you closes down inside. You become bitter and lose your ability to love. Resentments are a subconscious tool that we use to avoid hurt. Once you are willing to feel your hurt, the need to resent disappears. You can then forgive. Forgive the person for not being wiser and more aware. Forgive the person for acting consistent with his or her limited ability.
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Life doesn’t just happen. We interact with life in a very particular way which produces a very particular result. When you change how you relate to life, you change what happens around you.

Follow these ground rules and watch what happens.

1. Be positive
The words you speak and the thoughts you accept determine how you see life. You then act consistent with the way you see life and life responds accordingly. If you want a life that works, don’t speak negatively or accept negative thoughts about yourself, other people or your life. Don’t speak or think negatively unless you want your words and thoughts to come true.
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There was a day a while back when I was grumpy and life wasn’t much fun. I was discouraged and negative. Then I went to lunch and saw an old friend. We hugged each other and I experienced a beautiful burst of love. All of a sudden, life was wonderful again. I was happy, alive, and very positive. Life was a joy and opportunity was everywhere.

Nothing changed in the realm of circumstances, but everything changed in me. One moment I was in the darkness and in the next moment, I was in the light.
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You can heal any relationship

If you have a relationship that isn’t working, there is a cycle of conflict that is creating the problem. Each of you are getting hurt, putting up your walls of protection, and giving it back to the other.

Fortunately, it’s relatively easy to turn your situation around. This is because it takes two people to create a cycle of conflict. It only takes one person to end it. The cycle is like a tennis volley. It’s back and forth, back and forth. As soon as someone refuses to return the serve, the volley is over.
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